Stuff Or Experiences? No Contest!
Our world is full of stuff! Material goods. An abundance of them. You only have to look around and you see people competing to get the latest kit; whether it is the latest fashion, tech, cars or anything else for that matter! The race is well and truly on each day to get the best house, turn up with a new designer bag on a night out or have the latest phone.
But what if we stop for a minute and consider why we are working so hard to live the weekend and spending our free time to impress people and put posts on social media to show people all these 'amazing' things we have, when half the time we either don't like or don't know the people we aim to impress!
What about our social media persona. Who's feed is real? Does your friend show the hours of working behind a desk in a windowless office to buy that new car? Do they post pictures of their early morning tube journey, packed into a carriage like sardines to make it to work so they can earn the money to plough it all into the next pair of designer shoes?
Great, your instagram friend has got a new designer kitchen, does that mean they can cook michelin star meals or are they just satisfied that they have put a post out so everybody can see how nice their kitchen is and they may get 100 likes to boost their ego?
What about the months of finance or the hefty mortgage that your Facebook friend has to pay for the next, god knows how many years, but it was all worth it because they can put a post up to show everybody how successful they are!
Here is an idea, a concept that takes the modern ideal and spins it on its head. What about putting your time, money and effort into experiences? Life moments that allow you to grow, meet new people, see new things and tell amazing stories! Moments you could experience that would never be replicated!
What makes you happy? If it is the shoes, the car, working hard to make sure you are the friend with the best gear then great! Crack on! But why are so many successful (in monetary terms) people so depressed, so lonely? People look like they have everything, but they are missing 'something'.
We live in an era of 'one-up man ship', what is new and exciting one day, is soon last weeks news and before you know it the dude down the road or your mate at work has got a better car than you. You don't buy happiness owning possessions. Experiences shape you as a person, possessions are just an addition.
Build on your identity, don't opt for momentary happiness through possessions. Go for moments that experience provide which last forever. Value your time with loved ones and true friends.
One of the best quotes I have seen sums up my ramblings in one succinct sentence:
'No one is going to stand up at your funeral and say she had a really expensive couch and great shoes!'
Don't make your life all about stuff! xx